In the last 15 conscious years, I have seen friends and colleagues, treating me or other people like shit.
Surprisingly, I have also had the opportunity to be friends with people who treat other people around them with high regards, no matter their ranks in the society.
Let me tell you the story of one of my friends, Amanpreet Singh.
In a short period of 2 years that I have known him, I have noticed one simple value in him.
"Treat everyone the same. No one's inferior."
From chitchatting with the mall's security guard to frowning upon people who make their driver open the door for them, Aman believes in one simple thing - everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
Among all the other great qualities in him, I like this one the most. Partly because I'm quite aligned with his thoughts in this area.
You are defined by how you treat others. If you want people to respect you, respect others first.
Stop considering people inferior to you, no matter how successful you're in life. Be humble.
However, not always you will find people worth respecting. Some people are and will always be assholes.
Make sure you filter out the angels from the demons, or else you're giving them a license to screw you.
Use my technique to gauge people around you:
Whenever you meet someone new, give them a respect and goodness score of 100. As you get to know them better and see how they treat you, take off points from their account.
At the end of the day, you will know if the person you just met is even worth your kind behaviour. If they aren't, be polite and step away.
Don't waste your time and breath on someone who doesn't treat you well. It's just not worth the effort.
Start by NOT being an asshole yourself. Be good to others. They will, in most cases, be good to you as well.
Respect is neither given nor taken, it is earned.